I'm Still Here

I haven't been writing since life got too crazy and amazing, but I'm still here, and I'll catch up soon.


- Red

Location:W Jefferson St,Philadelphia,United States

The Locket

Jude left today for L.A., off to his big important artist conference and out of contact I imagine for a while. I'm real happy and excited for him, and I think he's gonna come back real happy and excited for himself. I do wish I could be here to see that part. I know what it's like to come back psyched for what you're gonna do with all the big new ideas you just got for yourself. I want to get excited too and see him smile and be in the picture of those moments. But I'll be away on my own trip getting happy and excited for me, and I wonder to myself if he wishes he could be there for that too? It isn't as wonderful a feeling if no one is there to say they're proud of you and they knew you could do it and I don't live at home anymore. And speaking of home, this place I live in right now, it is not a home. It might be when all my girls are around a little more if at all, and I can build up the feeling next semester somewhere between two jobs and a boy. Or maybe I'm looking for a real home. I'm a bird that wants to build a nest. Not for eggs though, fuck that.

Anyway. Now for more obligatory sap. I miss him.

There are at least as many ways to say you love someone as there are synonyms in every language in the world, including Bushman clicks, body language and sign. That is to say, there must be infinite possibilities waiting out there to be discovered so the same words never get old. You say it in this shy, gentle way that I can barely hear, never quite clearly but softly touching on just enough of the right syllables for me to make out the gist of it if I listen real hard and don't make a sound. There's a Cure song that's always playing in the background of my mind when you do it. 

And now you're really far away, and I can't touch you. I'm wearing the locket I asked you to put your picture in. I've never had a locket with a picture in it before. I never thought to ask. I never wanted one, really. But now I have one. I've been separated from boys before and I'm fine and it's all fine, I've got a little tummy ache is all. I just made a sad face to no one in particular. But I want you to have fun and not worry. Don't forget me, and come back in one piece. I love you.

Bad Days

I've been really totally horrible about keeping up with this thing, and I've been through so much since the last time I posted that I hardly know where to begin. But if I put it off forever then I'll never write again, and there is a place to start. 

Do you ever have a day that is just so unspeakably awful that it starts to become ridiculous and wraps all the way around the spectrum to just funny again? Where each new trouble or challenge becomes another punchline in the long comedy of life, and all you can do when it gets worse is laugh? You might call that insanity. Maybe it is. Or maybe it keeps us sane. Jude says he always tries to get to the part where it's funny; I dunno if I can always do that, but I think it'd be a good idea to try.

So I've had a day or two like that lately. Not sure why. Maybe I've been too settled and it was just time to shake it all up. I'll share one such day just for good measure though, because, at least I thought, it was pretty funny. 

I woke up in the morning with a terrible hangover from karaoke the night before and my car was gone, towed to the PPA lot in south Philly. Jude was too wrecked to get up until like 2:00 that day, but I had work, so I took a cab down there and milled around for an hour while the fucking Parking Wars camera crew shoved equipment in people's faces and harassed people and wasted my time and made me late. They told me they only come down here on really hot days because that's when people start to get nasty. And the yelling Zairis and south Philly garbage sure proved them right. 

But late as I was, I didn't stick around to get famous, I thought I'd drive up and park by work to save time; I drove around for another half hour because they built some gross huge housing complex in the time since I lived in this town last and all the parking was gone. I did manage to find Ashe's cafe though, so that's cool. But anyway, finally parked, I walked up to work in the stifling humidity, where I ran into Jay who told me everything in the store was broke and the day had been awful.

I walk in, and Max asks me how I feel about not taking breaks. What? Apparently there was some scheduling problem and we were the only two people for like five hours into close. So I say, because I'm a champ, yeah, let's do it. I'm exhausted and hung over, mind you. This lady came in and said she had something to cheer me up, that one of those duck buses flipped and people were missing, and then she cackled like an evil person. And I admit, I hate those fuckers and I think that's funny, but seriously, she was a crackhead. But we got ourselves a pizza and opened some chips and had our selves a time. We did what we wanted and judged the customers and knocked out the close. Jarrett came in, whom I hadn't seen in ages, not since the very awkward last time. He's a dear, but it was weird. And all these awful weirdos came in. And ten girls wanting frappuccinos right before close. I could have strangled them all. Instead I busted up my arm running into shit because I'm such a klutz. We listened to black metal when the doors locked, and got out late. Then I shambled back to Jude and passed out. 

I don't even remember what day this was. Like a week ago? We had a couple of spats in the last few days too, real dumb stuff. They're sorted out now. I feel like I've been in this boat before, pushing back because that's what I do when I'm giving in to someone. I push back, see how much give I can get, see if I can be me in the context of us. He's pushing back, too. He won't let me just do whatever goes into my head. I don't know that anyone's ever invested enough in me to get this far. He said he wanted me to be the one that's different. I want to be.

I'm leaving for California in a week. He's leaving in less than two days. I'm scared, both for the trip, and for being away for a month. Which is dumb, because I used to date long distance and I went to Japan when I was with Jon, and it never bothered me this much. My heart is all twisted up at the thought of it, and it's really hitting me now. That's how I know he's gotten to me. I can say the word "us". I can't stop thinking about it. My hands are shaky. I used to be afraid of opening up. But that's gone.

Liner Notes For A Later Date

19 Days In Your Room
Various Artists


1. Shelby Sifers - Are You Devo (The Spirituals Remix)
2. Gomez - Mix
3. Sleater-Kinney - Modern Girl
4. Ingrid Michaelson - The Way I Am
5. Brett Dennen - The One Who Loves You Most
6. Jens Lekman - Your Arms Around Me
7. Beirut - Scenic World
8. The XX - Heart Skipped A Beat
9. Lacrosse - You're On My Fighting Side
10. She & Him - I Was Made For You
11. MiniBoone - Rosalina Must Dance Alone
12. Yo La Tengo - Our Way To Fall


I wish I could commit to making these liner notes all at the same time and putting them in the case, but I got too excited to give you my present and I had to do it this way. I won't be hiding it in your gate this time, but I'll probably do something else shy to hand over the goods. This mix follows the same rules as before: twelve tracks, no repeated artists, one theme. I tried to get the same kind of songs, the same kind of beat, with a flow to move to. The first time I made one of these, I was falling hard for you. This time, I'm in deep, and I guess this is a story about that.


1. I came across this last and unexpectedly. The original title of the mix was to be 6 days in your room for the six days of summer blackout, but the lyrics called for 19, and so I did. The song is about waiting to and finally getting let in.


And like a big bad wolf I will
Eat your heart right out of your chest.
I would hug you so hard you bleed.
Oh what big eyes I have,
Oh what big teeth I have,
Oh what big feelings have,
Oh what big love I have. 


2. I don't really know what this song means because honestly it's kind of confusing, but I think it's about not knowing what the most important thing in life is because you're too busy with work or school or whatever, but I've got the answer. Be happy, and be honest if you're not.


3. I don't think this needs explaining. My baby loves me.


4. You know when I sing this, every time I sing it, I'm singing to you. This was the song I wanted to build around because I think it says everything I need to say. Whatever you need, I'll find it for you. Whatever you want, I'll get it for you. Whatever. Because you take me the way I am and I love it.


5. This song is what I want to be to you.


6. This song tells a little story about two people going to the shore and the mishap that gets in the way because they're screwing around. I just like the imagery of coming up from behind and putting my arms around you in some unexpected manner.


7. I feel like everything is beautiful when we're together. It is.


8. And this song is about the opposite of what I want to be. The thought of finding anything better than this in the whole big world is so alien and impossible to me that the notion horrifies me. And I think it's good to balance the sappy songs out.


9. Enough of the sad notes. You're on my fighting side, and I'm on you're fighting side too. That's where I'll keep on being. 


10. And, I think this might be true.


11. This song was written for people much younger than us, but I'm still familiar with the ideas it expresses, about being convinced about love at last. My knees will do anything you please, let's dance.


12. Please just read the lyrics to this. This, and all the others, but this most especially.


<3 

Playing Catch-up

So, I don't even know where to begin. I haven't written in a while. That has something to do with how exciting my life is - not in the good way - and something to do with how amazing it can get sometimes. I guess I'll give it a whirl. This is likely to be highly disjointed. 

My folks got me a used car last week, so that's been pretty neat. It's a silver 99 Honda Accord, I'm thinking of calling her the Queen Anne's Revenge II. After my last Honda, the Queen Anne's Revenge I. I already thought it was stolen once because I forgot where I parked in Old City - that was exciting. It's a bit of a mature car for me, but maybe it will cause people to underestimate me when I drag race them on Broad Street. I've been looking for excuses to go for a drive since then, but now I'm out of gas. It's better that way, I want to keep being the girl that bikes everywhere, so someday in the distant future I can get in shape and also I like that visage. 


Speaking of which, I got a new bike. And I had to ask Jude if he minded if we had the same bike, because somehow the only bike in town available in my size and price range and that I liked was the same one as his. So that's really dorky. But they'll be easy to find and besides, the seats are different! I haven't got it yet, but I'm gonna have to name it and everything when I pick it up tomorrow. I almost got my first fixie today, but then it was too small and they didn't have any more in the world.  So I won't get my hipster wings just yet. EDIT: Jude says it might be a fixed gear after all. Word.

But now I'm home making mix tapes, so that's not a concern at the moment. As for home, the power's been off for like a week. Something happened with the bill, and PECO shut us down, and apparently they close on weekends and it takes three days to turn power back on because people in this town are either so underpaid that their only goal in life is to stick it to the fuckin' man OR they're all morons. And I hate them. We came up here a couple of times in the dark to get my necessities and my food, and it was like a scene from a horror movie and I'm pretty sure I almost died. But I didn't. So I've been living with Jude basically for almost a week, and he's been really wonderful and welcoming and I hope not too annoyed with having me around all the time. I just went home today, and I feel like I just got home from a vacation. He says every day is an adventure with me. I think that might be the highest honor in the world. I do love - pride myself - on being adventurous. And he and I have fun in ways I find unbelievable sometimes. We can turn a dull day into something. And a something into something amazing. I have exactly what I want. A fellow adventurer, attractive and smart and interesting and fun. My greatest fear in love is the promise of boredom, but I don't think boredom is coming anytime soon or maybe at all. We'll see. 

But anyway, I'm home now. The house is somewhat in tact. The cats are alive, they're actually sitting on me now. I'm sitting in my living room with my laptop and the animals in my lap, watching Mullholland Drive and contemplating a joint. My sleep schedule has now fully synced with Jude's, so I'll be up pretty much all night I imagine. Perfect time to get something done. Or waste all the time in the world. I haven't decided yet. Blogging is an accomplishment as far as I'm concerned. 

I decided there are words I want to bring back into common usage, such as: wicked, rad, neat, keen, bangarang, bitchin' and introducing ... Shaqtastic. Will update with progress on that. 

The Way I Am

I've realized on a number of separate occasions recently that I've become one of those people I hated, the ones so happy and drunk with love and life that it's all they think about and all they want to talk about and you just want to take all that saccharine sop and shove it down their throats until they choke.I'm not talking about it blah blah blah twenty-four-seven. I'm writing this, sure, but this is precisely what I started blogging for. At the least I know I should be more tolerant of those people, now that I know what it is - I realized it when I was talking to Bobby today, when it came out by accident - it's happiness. He said, yeah, you're one of those happy people. I'm happy. I'm so happy.

But look, I have this thing that someone special taught to me a long, long time ago. I say what I'm feeling, I say it with absolute earnest, and the person that I love will somehow know it every day, but I don't say the same thing every day. Those are special words that have to be used with utmost care so they won't lose their value. They have to be protected. And so, in order to protect them, I show how I feel. I do. And the ones I love the most at the ones that do back. A photograph. A keepsake. A trip to your favorite cafe in the city. I'd do anything for you. So tonight instead of words, I'm sharing a little of myself with you. And for the sake of the sanity of all the people who haven't yet come to my same realizations, I'll stop just there for now, and now for something completely different. 

Jude said I should do a little experiment while I blog tonight, to start smoking in the beginning and just see what turns out. I see it a social experiment to determine definitively whether or not people under the influence create more beautiful art, or at least as beautiful as it is to them. Jude said once that they don't, but for my part, I'm willing to wager it depends on the person. Because the mind wants to create. It just needs a push. And so I wanted to see the progression of sober to high on paper in the morning.

First things first is the revelation that food is better when you cook it, followed by a consideration of the absurdity of wanting to write about food. I'm watching a movie called Adam, about a man with Asperger's, and truth and lies and love. It's touching, but the soundtrack is patchy, and you know how I feel about soundtracks and mixtapes. When I gave Jude a mixtape, he told me I should do soundtracks for indie movies, and I said something dumb like I have to save the world, and he lamented for Zach Braff. I do suspect he was being nice. He's always being nice. He's the nicest boy I've ever met. See, here I go again, the happy is coming through, unannounced. I understand, lovers of the world! The movie ended, it was supposed to be happy I think, but it was awful sad, because Adam's only character development was therapeutic process for his disease, not emotional. He'll never find what the girl could have gave him. Stupid writers and producers. That's not a happy ending. I only had five matches, so I've hit a wall now where I can't light this anymore, so this post will start going downhill, flicker or die ...


In conclusion, Jude is right, or I just don't have a beautiful enough mind.

Stars And The Mountain

I'm sitting alone at my desk tonight, eating noodles and painting my nails and watching an incurably cute movie and just being a girl for the evening. The movie is Paper Heart. It's about discovering what love is scientifically, and discovering it accidentally. In the movie, Michael and Charlyne eat in diners and play pranks on one another and see cheap concerts and throw frisbees and smile, and the people around them are in love, or they're not, but they're just the background noise. The only story you want to hear - the only one that matters - is Michael and Charlyne. There's a scene where they're walking in the grocery store holding hands and he's complaining that he doesn't know what to make her because she doesn't eat meat that really made me smile. I wonder what it's like to live your life behind a camera. Will it still be real? Do those people ever feel the feelings they want us to believe they do? I think, no matter how incredible a story the movies can come up with, real life can be and is infinitely better.

I had another one of those weekends where everything just feels right. Jude took me to the movies, even though he doesn't really care for the movies, because he promised we would. It was one of those neat things he gets to go to because he just knows people. I feel like people know I don't quite fit in - I didn't go to art school, and I don't talk and dress quite right - but I get a sense of paternalistic tolerance, and I'll take that. We biked home together in the rain and it smelled like summer when I was a kid.

We woke up together in the morning, groggy and fumbling, for a big day. I don't remember what we wasted away our night on, maybe TV and maybe just hanging out, but I know I sleep better beside him. We were going camping! I met a bunch of his friends and we drove into the wilderness, holding hands and tickling across a cooler in the back seat. Karim and Becky are passing a j, and the ride feels like nothing. I mean, until we get up there, and get lost, and drive in circles for a while. Eventually we make it to the top of the mountain and pull out into this beautiful open field, and a chalet with a view down into the valley and the lake and town. Jude is already taking pictures. He has this big ridiculous antique polaroid you have to order film off eBay for that makes me smile every time I see him pick it up. And he's good at taking pictures, I want him to teach me too. Anyway, I meet all these crazy nice people, and they're all sitting around a ready-lit fire drinking as it starts to downpour. I mean, really rain, with thunder and lightning and whipping wind. We huddle together beneath the pavilion and watch our fire struggle bravely on. Somehow, I made it inside and passed out watching the storm, and woke after dark, dinner missed, tummy angry. But Jude just puts his arms around me, and it's all right. All right to suck at camping games. All right to be a little silly. All right to curl up together and sleep to the storm.

In the morning, the sun comes out. We all make breakfast, and we all clean up, like we all know each other. Jude and I play frisbee with Karim, and even though I rarely make a good pass, no one makes me feel silly for it. We're going hiking today. On the road, we pick up two wayward campers, and I try - and fail - to catch a milk snake. The place we're going is called Thousand Steps - really it's like 1,021, which is bullshit - a few of us turn back, the others struggle painfully up. Jude says we're in a happy medium between those that want to run up the mountain and those that are going to throw up, and that seems about right. It's the roughest constant climb I've done since that temple in Japan. My legs feel like butter and shake like jell-o. But at the top, the feeling of victory is a beautiful high. We climb, we play, we take pictures, and kiss. We conquered the mountain. We searched for treasures - didn't find any. And ran back down before the rain. We found a snake in the fire pit, and I tried to pick him up a few times, got bit, screwed around and eventually someone took him away. Party poopers. While I help James build a fire, the others discuss how we're going to hurt ourselves. Someone brought bb guns - it's really downhill from here. We shoot targets a little while before someone introduces a slip 'n slide, soap, and drinking into the mix. I hurt myself on the slide, so I call it slip in bleed. Everyone ends up soapy and soaked in PBR. We make burgers and kebabs and I run around in the rain a bit before it lets up. We all go out to the gazebo to smoke and look at the stars, and then thoroughly blazed, Jude and I take a blanket out to the field. I forget there's other people as we lay looking up, warm beside him, barely able to think or speak. The stars were brilliant and clear. I felt so alive.

But of course, like all good things, it had to end. We left this morning, after a hundred photographs, and drove home in fair quiet. I slept in his lap, and he with an arm around me. We sprawled out on the carpet at his house, and then I had to get up to go home. And now here I am, thinking about how much fun I had and how many people I met and being sad that it's over. We didn't kill each other. I don't know about Jude, but I didn't get tired of each other either. I have about a hundred little anecdotes of things that got said over the weekend, but to try and get them all out on paper might be impossible. It might take away their magic. Just know, they happened. It's like, we don't have to try to have fun, we just do. We just are. It's easy.

Happiness Is ...

Warning Label: this shit is sappy as hell. Read no further without a barf bucket at hand.

My heart feels so full that I'm afraid it might burst, so full that it fills my chest until I can barely breathe, so full that it hurts, so full that if I move just to speak, I might die. There aren't enough good words in the world to describe it. But I want to try. 

I said, I can't remember the last time I was this happy. 


She said, things really seem to be looking up for you. They are. I'll start at the top. 

Friday night, as far as I knew, I was just going over Jude's later on so we could go to a wedding together the next day. I guess I should preface all this with the fact that he always seems to be going to this and that cool and exciting event related to how cool and exciting his career is, and I confess I'm a little envious sometimes on account of the coolness and the excitingness. So on this particular Friday, one of these things is going on, and he asks me along. I got my hair done and I'm feeling pretty and he knows to tell me I am because he's amazing. This event happens to be an opening for one of his students, in a weird little gallery. This is the very place I called a nest of hipsters on my other digital outlets. It was fun, really, full of weird smelly people with weird smelly clothes, but all very nice and friendly, and we stood in a corner talking about the things that hipsters do and arguing about the plaid to non-plaid ratio in hipster packs. It's not as glamorous as I had imagined, it was much, much better. Drinking cream soda and making that's what she said jokes in a corner while judging everyone in the room is all I could ask for, haha. We wandered around after that for several hours, checking out bars and the people he knows, he told me about his last wedding date (prompting my determination to top that shit), before trudging home to watch TV and giggle until we passed out.

In the morning, I joked about ditching him and then we went to meet Sean at the cafe, coffee like we always do, a little earlier than I was ready to be up but okay just the same. I have to say, I fucking hate weddings. I've never had a good wedding date. I've never had a really good time at a wedding, ever. I never want to go to them. But  when Jude asked me to be his date, I blurted out, I'D LOVE TO without really thinking, and I wanted to go, and I wanted to show us both that the world is just full of tofu people and two amazing fun people like us can actually have a good time doing just about anything. And that's exactly what we did. 

Jude is a hilarious driver. We miss a turn, and there's an explosion of cursing and swerving and mumble mumble, until we get back on track. I play goofy hipster music. We stop at a funny little diner, chatting about the road trip we keep talking about maybe having someday (another experience I want to top), and sit by the mirror so I can stare at the other diners and he can stare at them in the mirror. The motel has us double-reserved. We set the fire alarm off running the shower to steam our clothes because there's no iron in the Courthouse Inn. Jude is tie-tying challenged. I can't sit still. But I know he looks incredible and I feel pretty and standing next to him in the mirror we look amazing. He drives us to this beautiful castle a few minutes late, walks me up the drive, and introduces me to his friends. His friends are welcoming, and he's got his arms around me, and I don't feel weird or scared or anything. We explore, run off and sneak under a barricade with our drinks and kiss where no one else can see, and get kicked out like kids in high school. Actually, we found every not allowed place to kiss in the whole darn place, and we found a perfect moment, through a field of fireflies at sunset, into the woods, alone ... I don't know, but my heart hasn't sat still since. We danced silly, we drank, went out, and came back, and I sleep better than ever because he's there. And we sure as hell topped his last wedding experience, and all the wedding experiences I've ever had. And maybe all the days and nights I've ever had. I was so happy that night I could have died.

Sunday, we ate bagels in the motel nook - and he took his time eating to tease me before we left because he knew we were late and I was antsy - and he drove me to Yardley to meet up with my two closest friends, Rich and Steph (or Steph and Rich, in case they're reading and have half a mind to assume the name order has anything to do with which one is my favorite). I haven't seen them in a while - Steph lives in Texas, and Rich is busy all the time - and we decided to go to Hurricane Harbor for the day. And, it was amazing. We went on every single ride. They have this new thing like a giant funnel you drop marbles in only the marbles are people in rafts! I went down the tallest steepest slide when Rich and Steph chickened out and went down the weenie little ones, and I even made friends in line. We had deep conversations about our friends and who we date - and not so deep ones about cock. We teased Rich about being in such good shape since our beach trip from last year. We had an innertube sumo match. Oh, and get this. Steph and I are so cute that we went up to one of the rides with Rich, intending to race down in our tubes, but the guys working up top were into us, they tried to steal us from Rich. And Rich got so protective! We ended up getting split up again on another ride later, but we were pretending to ignore him at the time for teasing too much, and so when we were ignoring him, we missed him fly off his inner tube and lose his glasses in the pool. We went out for sushi and ice cream in Princeton. We taught Rich how to eat edamame: Steph told him to put the whole thing in his mouth, and he realized this "as soon as it entered his mouth." That's what she said. Wehad an amazing touching conversation, dinner wherein Rich and Steph both tried new foods!, ice cream with rosemary and hot pepper ... Rich gave us each a CD, and we cried. Rich drove us home, and we talked about things I never talk about, and sad as it was, I realized how darn close I am to both of them, and writing that right now makes me want to cry. If you're reading, I love you guys.

Anyway, Rich took me back to Jude, late as usual, and ... Well, we were talking about not wanting to be those people that get upset when plans don't go right. And fuck if things didn't go as planned last night. This part is more detailed because it happened most recently and I remember it best. So here goes. We were gonna go to karaoke, but karaoke was cancelled. And there it was, a perfect opportunity. I'm not attached to my date plans, I'm really not - I've had great dates that were great because they went terribly awry - but this particular night I did something I never, ever do. I said, let's go bowling. Now, I hate bowling. I avoid it. I don't know where it came from. But I said it. And Jude said, I'm terrible at bowling. But instead of being a weenie, I said, me too, let's go anyway. It seemed like a great way to not take life so seriously and just be completely spontaneous. So we did. We took our time though, because we knew we'd suck. We sat in the Piazza. We strolled up 3rd Street. We played one game at North Bowl, we were accordingly terrible, and it didn't matter at all. It was fun! It was silly! We took crazy themed pictures in the photo booth and stared at the romance books and bacon-flavored gummies in the vending machine and Jude told me about this old video game machine that moves from venue to venue. We exchanged Mitch Hedberg jokes. I put on socks with flip flops. And then, because the night was young, we went to Charlie's and I asked him to teach me pool because he likes pool (he likes being good at pool) and he makes me want to learn to like the things he likes too. And I enjoyed it thoroughly. He's a great teacher. He never made me feel silly or inadequate, he didn't seem embarrassed that he was good and I wasn't, and he's really really cute when he makes a shot that he's excited about. Nothing else in the world mattered. And then we went home to watch TV and giggle until we fall asleep. 

I feel closer to him every time I see him. Every time I say or do anything. I'm happy. I'm having fun. I'm  getting comfortable without turning boring. I'm inspired to do selfless things. I feel safe and wanted. But it's exciting and wonderful and amazing and I haven't gotten this close to another human being since college. Since I was a young idealist. And he's got me remembering ... I still am.

And my life, even though it's not been perfect, it is great right now. It is amazing. I'm in love. I'm happy. This is perfect.

PBR & American Spirits

I'm sitting, the bare backs of my legs in their skirt stuck to the white vinyl couch, on a night that feels like it should be a Friday but isn't. Everything is done, it just needs to get turned in, and then it will officially be summer. Which would be good news, if I hadn't just found out I was denied the state support I was expecting for the next couple of months. I can't really get hired, work a month, quit, and work somewhere else another month, now can I? I could take out a loan, but that would only add to the endless swamp of despair (and debt) I expect to be wading through in the not too distant future. I have confidence in my ability to overcome the swamp, but this part really bites. I'm going to try not to dwell on it too much, by changing the subject. 

Jude is sitting next to me, autographing trading cards of himself. It is completely ridiculous. I envy the lifestyle, paying the rent with little masterpieces, but it would never work out. I'd always want to do my own thing and never what anyone else wanted. And I prefer to illustrate myself anyway. Didn't I want to do a comic at some point? I'll get around to it maybe eventually. We came across a piece of his other art this evening - the non-commercial, the personal - and I've fallen in love with the expressiveness of it, screen printed to some blank page in the back of my mind forever, and with everything else about him. And I want to steal the notebook we found it in. But I'll probably content myself with sneaking glances at it when he's not looking.

And now for something completely different. Do you ever put your iPod on shuffle and just let it go? And then sometimes a song comes on that you hadn't heard in a while, that belongs on a mixtape you need to make, or already did and forgot about, and it makes you smile? Yeah. I love those moments. Yo La Tengo, You Can Have It All, first experienced at a party at Ashley's house back a million years ago in a winter backyard, back when everyone thought Rich and Ashe were dating and before they knew how absurd a thought that was. Included on the mix, Songs for Rain. 

Rich always has the best music. If I had to come up with one person that had influenced my musical taste the most overall, since of course childhood when Dad bestowed upon me the gift of the Beatles, it would be Rich, hands down. He always has something new and interesting for me. And he's the one that got me started making mixtapes. He and I spent a whole day together once in the cafe of Yardley Starbucks, making the cover art and the liner notes for Steph's going away present. At first I was intimidated by his swanky style and discerning taste, but I realized eventually that even dandies and hipsters look up to someone when they decide what is and isn't good enough for them. I downloaded everything Rich mentioned in passing or played in the car, and fell in love with all my new favorite bands one by one, until one day I was looking for new things and recommending music to other people myself - you should check out the Lacrosse album, on that note. And that's when I started making mixtapes. But I will never be a hipster. Assholes.

Actually, the people that I think of as hipsters, the ones I know anyway - and I guess really this is part of the game - always say, "I don't know why people call me that." Because you don't like being labeled, you unique fucking snowflake! You, in your thrift store togs and converse all-stars, touting your natural vegan ways, riding your fixie while you listen to mixtapes you traded to other assholes on the internets. My favorite attitude on this will always be, "Fuck you. I'm gonna drink my PBR and smoke my American Spirits 'til I die." That's right, you tell 'em, girlfriend. I like some of the coda of the hipster lifestyle, and when Urban Outfitters put out a line of bi-cycles, you can bet I wanted one, but something about the idea of not shaving and using that bullshit Tom's deodorant that doesn't deodorize shit doesn't appeal to me. I'm more like a teeny-hipster. Or a hippertini. People that know a lot of hipsters but aren't in the club. They shop at Urban and American Apparel, but also at the Gap. They ride a bike, but it's not a cool fixie. They don't own a record player, but they do have everything Apple has ever made. They take polaroid pictures. Their hair is not cut asymmetrically. And they still smell good. That's me. If I walked up to a pack of hipsters in a cafe, they'd know - they'd sniff me, question me about my band t-shirt, remark that they'd only gone to that show for the opening act, and turn their noses up with a sulky sway of their collective hips. 

The password to get in is nothing - I'm supposed to act like I don't care, but I'd rather tell them all to screw off.

Actually, cafe people aren't that bad, especially the boys. The ones at Saxby's, which is the only tolerable cafe on campus, are pretty tolerant of hippertinis so long as they are not trying to pretend to be hipsters. They play good music, and they delight in telling you about it if you ask, but they sure as hell spend every free minute standing around with their arms crossed judging people. I make sure to smile, and I've been meaning to drop off a copy of the CD I bought from the last opening act I talked to them about. I'm not trying to get into the club, I'm a genuinely friendly person, and generous where I can be.

And on that note, I made my sister a mix right before I left South Carolina, and I know she found it because she moved it out of the way, and didn't say a word to me. Jerk. Maybe she's the type that gets all embarrassed when people give them things - which I do - and feels awkward bringing it up. Or maybe she just forgot. I will be sure to ask her about it later in front of a group of people. 

I think maybe I will start inventing words like Jude says he used to do, and like they do on How I Met Your Mother. Terms for things we just haven't thought of yet, but that we could all use. Everything has a name, whether we want it to or not, it's just a matter of human ingenuity coming up with the best way to express it. Sometimes it's just a certain way you smile when you're just so happy you could burst and you want to tell someone about it but there's nothing to say so you just smile. I haven't got a word for it, but you'll know what I mean when I do it. I do it a lot lately.

Weimeraner

I burnt the shit out of myself today. I had it all planned out, timed it and everything. Somehow I forgot the sunscreen, and to take down my bathing suit straps, so in addition I'm going to have an asshole tan. Today wasn't shaping up for success by any count, I have to admit. 

Last night I had eight various mixed drinks, mostly mojitos, plus other people's leftovers, several shots, and some legal pot. I danced for three hours to reggae-bluegrass-jam. And then I punched some guy in the face. And then I tried to walk home so no one would see me upset, but when a stranger makes you feel fat and far from home, it leads to face-punching and tears.

So I slept too late, and woke up with a monstrous headache and waves of nausea. It threw me off all. day. They all warned me, too, somehow I always manage to fuck up. Every single vacation I go on, I give myself first degree skin cancer and ruin the experience of sitting thereafter. It also causes sun comas. I still owe the university a little work, but I haven't gotten anything substantial done because I find myself doing more napping than waking. 

Upon one of those catlike wakings, I was invited down to the beach to look for shells, which I can never turn down, and off I went, sans sunscreen again. My back is a total mess. As I sit here, I can see myself reflected in the shimmer of cooked flesh across my bare chest, and can only imagine what tomorrow will bring. It does occur to me at this juncture that I have a particularly weird experience to relate, though.

We went out with the intention of getting oysters on the half shell. One of the boys recommended us a little place up the road, so we decided to try it out. I'm just going to try to describe this experience in the following paragraphs, although this will be no means capture the full bizarreness of the evening.

We turned down a dirt road leading into a marsh, empty, and dead quiet. A few dark houses lined the row, and the trees grew so thick back there it almost gave the feel of twilight. The theme song from Deliverance comes to mind. Bobbee said we ought to turn back, that we were on the wrong road, but Dad pointed to a fucking dirt lot ahead and said, no no, that's gotta be it up there. We pull down there to find a mass of cars parked like hick trucks on a front yard, carefully orchestrated around heaps of garbage and plywood. Walking up, the road is lined with broken oyster shells and beer caps - actually, I thought the caps were little shells at first, but on closer inspection, realized this was not the case. The grand shadows of buildings that aren't houses finally greet us, surrounded on all sides by literal mountains of old oyster shells, and beyond that, the buggy steamy marsh. 

It took us probably ten minutes to figure out how to get inside and get food. A helpful sign painted, "Restaurant This Way" with an arrow greeted us, but as it turned out the arrow pointed to nothing. So we wandered around the complex for a while. There are a number of small, abandoned buildings full of garbage and wood, and painted bright colors, huddled around the foot of a larger main building. One of the smaller buildings is a train car. One is a 6 x 6 brick cube with the name of an attorney on a plaque outside and the door kicked in. The main building is literally sitting on cinder block stilts, and made of unadorned plywood. Two forty year old lawn chairs sit at the bottom of a ramp to nowhere, watching forlornly as oyster greenhorns climb the ramp to the top, only to find nothing there - although it does offer a lovely view of the rooftop moss garden on a building below. 

We finally found ourselves directed to a bait shack, where a man named Mimi will greet you and take your order, cash only, fried only, and everything good is out of season. Also there's a private wedding reception on the back dock, where rednecks in golf shirts and red baseball hats celebrate the union of their unpedigree pups. You order from Mimi, then walk back up the dock to the cinder-plywood masterpiece and find a good thirty people sitting underneath at plastic tables with mis-matched, degrading chairs. It looks an awful lot like the inside of a garage, with a concrete floor and junk heaped variously around, complete with a crappy garage cover band, consisting of my Uncle Benny's doppelganger, a beatnik conspiracy theorist, and a desperate Richard Simmons in the midst of a serious heroin binge. You seat yourself and just wait, sipping coke out of cans, until the waitress comes. She doesn't know where the food is going when it comes out, she just comes out and stands in the middle of the garage yelling your name until you claim your shit. 

And it's the weirdest seafood I've ever seen. Mimi swears it's all fresh caught in the bay, but it's been fried beyond recognition. They give you a 16-inch slab of fried fish, soggy fried shrimp, a hairball that's meant to be a crab cake, something called hush puppies which as best as I can figure are fried corn meal balls, all heaped atop the worst french fries I have ever had - though I'm sure they don't catch those. You have to get your own silverware and condiments and napkins out of a barrel. When we finally get called, the band plays - butchers - Tom Petty, and some guys start whooping and hollering and clapping like it's the rodeo. This is the low country experience, says Bobbee. While I was struggling to digest that mess, I watched a fucking Weimeraner run around the tables, sniffing at people and stealing pieces of fish and garbage. And the low country people were not fazed or even interested.

I should take at least a moment to describe the bathroom in the place, in closing. The walls are pinned up with old bedsheets from 1974, and all spare surfaces are graffitied with the nicest graffiti I have ever seen. Visit such and such a home living website. Goodbye to broken promises and forgotten dreams. I love you, Brad and Jenny. Michelle Branch lyrics. And the toilet was lovingly inscribed, Love Toilit (sic) Have a nice dump, have a nice day :), in pink hi-lighter. I like weird bathrooms and always take care to note especially memorable ones, but overall, this was probably the weirdest. I thought I was in the bizarro world. As we left, my dad leaned in and said, I have a quote from the men's bathroom for your blog, Clinton Pucket is a homo. And whistling Deliverance, we drove back to civilization. 

And thus ends my weird day. I'm not drinking for a ... week.